Parents these days have to be with their children all the time. They have a hard time letting go. And they fight the battles their children should be fighting. How is the child going to be able to survive in the workplace and/or integrate with the rest of their age group. Here's an example, I was talking with a college recruiter from a top accounting firm and she stated the firm has started having tours with the potential employee and their parents. Many parents have even attended job fairs with the child. There has even been parents calling the employer after their child's interview asking questions about how things went, what is the time frame for an offer, etc... Isn't this the responsibility of the child? Or should say YOUNG ADULT!
I think this all stems from a parent not letting go in the earlier years. I'm not saying a kid hits 13 and you say "okay you're on your own now." But I do think you need to step back a little and start letting them make some decisions. This also means the child will have to start dealing with the consequences of the decisions they make.
Also, there has to be consequences for choices people make, whether that be the parent or the child. Great example, there were try-outs for the Naples Sharks about a week ago and the dates had been posted for several weeks. Every parent was aware that there would be two try-outs and a possibility of an alternate try-out date due to weather conditions. The second try-out date was cancelled due to weather and the club used the alternate try-out date for selections. One parent had the audacity to show up to the alternate try-out date without her children and ask for a private try-out at another time. Really?!? Her children had gone to a concert in Orlando on that day which was a choice they had made. They should not get an additional try-out, this is not a perfect world. They made a choice to go to a concert, and the consequence should be they forgo a second try-out and may not make the soccer team. Their parent should not step in to make their lives easier. Are they going to do this all their lives? So when their child hits the age of getting a job, are they going to call an employer and say, "my child needs another interview date due to us having a vacation planned for 2 months now." Yeah right!
I think this all stems from a parent not letting go in the earlier years. I'm not saying a kid hits 13 and you say "okay you're on your own now." But I do think you need to step back a little and start letting them make some decisions. This also means the child will have to start dealing with the consequences of the decisions they make.
Also, there has to be consequences for choices people make, whether that be the parent or the child. Great example, there were try-outs for the Naples Sharks about a week ago and the dates had been posted for several weeks. Every parent was aware that there would be two try-outs and a possibility of an alternate try-out date due to weather conditions. The second try-out date was cancelled due to weather and the club used the alternate try-out date for selections. One parent had the audacity to show up to the alternate try-out date without her children and ask for a private try-out at another time. Really?!? Her children had gone to a concert in Orlando on that day which was a choice they had made. They should not get an additional try-out, this is not a perfect world. They made a choice to go to a concert, and the consequence should be they forgo a second try-out and may not make the soccer team. Their parent should not step in to make their lives easier. Are they going to do this all their lives? So when their child hits the age of getting a job, are they going to call an employer and say, "my child needs another interview date due to us having a vacation planned for 2 months now." Yeah right!
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